Turn into a resourceful state to win

The real difference between those who fail and those who win lies is in their states. Those who succeed put themselves almost always in a supportive state and those who fail in a failure state.  As behaviour is the result of the sate we are in, it thus becomes essential that we create an appropriate state always. Our thoughts, self talk, the images we keep (internal representations) and physiology create the states we are in. How you behave to your wife who comes very late will depend on how you ‘pictured’ what she did during the time. If you thought she could be involved in an accident, you would welcome her with affection. But if you pictured her being unfaithful to you, your behavior would be one of anger, frustration or revenge.

An event is perceived as per your personality (a sum total of your experiences so far). We do not know how things truly are but how we represent them to ourselves.  We need to make them empowering and not weakening ones. We need to store more empowering representations to create confident states. Why not  focus on all the things that will work instead of concentrating on what will not? Whatever be the situation, you can see good things in it as successful people do.  

If you feel that is not going to work, be sure it won’t. If you feel it can work it will. We all have our own way of seeing things around. It will all depend on our map or the sum total of our experiences. If you have been focusing on all the bad things so far, you will see the chances of failures or problems in anything you attempt and you come into a state that supports failure. You have to practice representing things in a better way as our behavior depends on how we perceive things.

Every day you can tell yourself ‘today is the day.’ At the end of the day tell ‘tomorrow is the day.’  When you say these try to be in an expectant and happy state of mind. Whatever you feel and believe puts you in a state to translate it into reality. You can also try to be in a positive body physiology all the time: sit, stand, walk erect holding your head up, practice drawing back your shoulders and breathing deeply and dressing smartly.  Make it a practice to go through the confident and successful experiences you have had.  These will induce a highly resourceful state making you feel everything is good and anything is possible.    

Develop a better personality

I have always been attentive even to the small aspects that would improve my lifestyle and personal well-being.  How can we boost our personality to create an exceedingly amazing life? Here I mention some of the fundamental aspects that might trigger your inner self and drive you forward. The first and foremost thing is to decide  the purpose of your life.  It may be difficult to figure out but without knowing what you want to achieve you in life you cannot direct your inner resources or chanelize your energies.  If you know what is it that you want you can focus on things you are passionate about, on those things you love to do. 

The second most important aspect is your attitude. Do you feel you have been born with a grey cloud? Do you think you will have failures all the time? Do you think you are not good and very inadequate to succeed in anything? Nobody is perfect although there are some who are blessed with better endowments than you. Well, you cannot do anything about it and there are many who are much more unfortunate that you are. Bring your mind to believe that whatever you dream and believe you can get.You unfurl your life and your mental expectations become true. Then read on those guys who were much worse than you are and learn how they overcame their seemingly insurmountable difficulties and succeeded. There is a very simple truth: if you want something and you go after it until you get, it is sure you will be successful. You need to believe you are good and you deserve more; otherwise you cannot succeed. You can then try these simple tips. Do at least one little help a day to someone without expecting anything in return. Do what you are supposed to do, today itself. Dress and groom always smart and try to be in a peak state body physiology (stand /sit erect with shoulders drawn, looking straight; walk/move briskly); do not idle away time. Have a goal and go after it every second of your time making your dear ones happy. These steps would make you love yourself more and become more confident. Exercise, to keep your body and brain fit and eat less. I would mention one more small point: cultivate a network of friends everywhere.