One smokes
or drinkers with good intentions and they seem to be of help to you. You will be getting some obvious benefits by
indulging in any one of them or both.
Smoking for instance gives you a macho feeling, you feel like the
gallant guy on horseback with a Marlborough dangling between your lips like in the
advertisement. Or it takes you to a higher level of confidence unattainable
otherwise. It may seem to help you cope up with or manage a stressful situation better. Remember you almost
always tend to smoke when you face a problem or when you have to take a
difficult decision. Drinking does all
these and more; it takes you to a fantasy realm where you feel extremely courageous
and confident to do anything. It makes you forget pain, sorrow and despair
temporarily. It is another thing that when the ‘kick’ is gone you revert back
to your original state and suffer more.
There are certain triggers which prompt you to smoke or drink. You feel like smoking after waking up, when you go for your ablutions, after a good meal, when you gamble, when you drink, when you see a match box or a pack of cigarettes or when you feel bored. Thus smoking does fulfill some emotional needs of yours. You drink when you are happy sad, in tension, or every evening (by the force of habit). There are good intentions when you indulge in either of them.
There are certain triggers which prompt you to smoke or drink. You feel like smoking after waking up, when you go for your ablutions, after a good meal, when you gamble, when you drink, when you see a match box or a pack of cigarettes or when you feel bored. Thus smoking does fulfill some emotional needs of yours. You drink when you are happy sad, in tension, or every evening (by the force of habit). There are good intentions when you indulge in either of them.
How could
you derive the same pleasures or good results by other means? Ask your mind to create alternatives behaviors
to satisfy your good inattentions. Once
the alternatives are in front of you, ask the creative part of your mind to
accept them as substitutes. To get you into a more confident state, you can for
instance start dressing and grooming up in the best way possible. To get a good feeling
help someone without expecting anything in return, or try to achieve a small
success (in anything) each day.
Simultaneously
do this simple mental exercise too: Keep
a bright big picture of your poor, sick dying self smoking or drinking enlarged
in the centre of your mind. Keep a dull
small picture of you in a confidant healthy state (without the habit) at the
right hand bottom side of your mind.. In a matter of seconds let the small dull
picture at the right hand corner expand, become brilliant, go and smash up the big
picture of your present state you saying ‘swish’ as it happens. Again bring the
big present sick picture of your drinking or smoking state at the centre of
your mind and let the small dull confident picture at the right hand corner
become brilliant and smash up the big one in a matter of seconds, you saying ‘swish’.
Repetition and speed are important to get results. You may repeat the same a few more times tomorrow
and perhaps the day after. Your desire
to indulge in the habits must have been lessened if not altogether gotten rid
of once you complete these.
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