Become Happy

The adventurous dive into the depths of oceans. The daredevil do skydiving or par jutting. Others tread the snow capped mountains to reach the dangerous peaks.

Men like Obama spend long periods establishing themselves and again spend years giving up everything-free time, family life and life’s innocent pleasures,  go to every nook and corner of a large country for years to become the leader of the nation.  

Bill Gates and Warren Buffet make billions after years of intelligent toil and give almost the entire money they have made to the needy. Again they amass wealth to give to charity.  Millions and millions around the world work hard and hard. Peasants toil in the fields in the hot sun. There are the executives who rake their brain to give direction and guidance to their company and motive the subordinates.

What are these people after?

 To become a leader or the chief executive? 

To conquer a mountain? 

To explore the sea beds?

For the thrill of the adventure?

To help their fellow beings?

To rear up a family?

Or, Just to eke out a living?

Why should they become a CEO? Why should anyone crave for adventure?  Why should anyone help others, especially the less fortunate? Why should people work for money? Certainly there is something beyond the obvious answers.  If you go deeper, everything can be reduced to 9 letters: HAPPINESS. Every one of us wants to be happy. We are all equal in this. There is no other ultimate aim behind whatever man does. Even a murder is committed to be happy (whether one will be truly happy or not is another thing). We live to be happy and peaceful.

Before we embark on anything, let us ask ourselves: will it make me happy? 

Stop feeling sorry

The dark clouds will swim away and the brilliant sun will emerge from behind.

There will be days which are less sunny when things just do not seem all that right. But they are going to change. There will be warming rays and fragrant zephyrs. There is no meaning in a smile if one has not experienced a tear.

What is the good in getting upset over small things which are not the way you wanted them? Worrying is not going to change a thing. There are ways to make you happy even in a very bad situation. You can turn round your mind to something good that happened sometime back. You can listen to the lisping of your child or talk to a bosom friend. Now there is a trying time. Tomorrow it will all be so easy. Life is like that. It is a tear and a joy; it is a smile and a cry.

Stop feeling bad about yourself. When something goes awry, do not start to blame yourself. There are such incidents in everyone’s life. It is comforting to know that everyone worries too. If you are feeling bad about your terrible childhood, well, what can be done about it? Those who enjoyed a splendid one are lucky. But it is not their mistake you did not get a good childhood. Further, they did not ask for theirs either. That is the way life is. But if you harp on your unpleasant past, no one will be interested in you. There are so many who have gone through much more trying situations. There are millions who are blind, deaf, mute, crippled, mentally retarded and imbeciles. In comparison you are thousands of times luckier and privileged. 

Life gives no guarantees, But you have a choice. Spend your time brooding up in self hate or roll over and get back to your feet and have a big laugh at the small irritants and simply march forward. Remember over 90% of all worries never happen. And worrying is not going to help the 10% that might happen. Be prepared to face them. But there is no need to cross a bridge before you come to it.

Mark Ingles had lost both his legs in a mountaineering expedition. The double amputee managed to climb Mount Everest! Helen Keller was blind, mute and deaf. Still she kept a warming smile and inspired millions to go up in life forgetting all their afflictions. Our problems are small in comparison. Let us dump our troubles into the waste basket and rise up with a heartening smile. There are so many out there much worse than we are.