How to overcome depression or sadness?

If you are depressed you will stand or sit in a very weak state: Looking down, drawing in your shoulders and sometimes muttering negative things to yourself internally.  You will not feel like attempting something challenging or trying for a new job or business. You will not even feel the courage to meet your boss or a person you have developed a fancy to. If you are in such state more of the time you are awake, you are certainly going to end up as a failure. It is possible you become eventually so depressed that you feel like ending your life.  Is there a way to stop such depressing experiences and take control of your mind?

Even those who experience the above may have had a good share of happy experiences too. But they ignore them or see them far away from their minds instead of seeing them close by.  They do not see what they saw (in their  happy or confident experiences) brightly; they do not hear what they neared loudly and experience intensely the feeling they had during the experience. Those who push their happy experiences far away from their minds feel they happened long back. Try this out: see everything you saw enlarged and bright, hear what you heard louder and clear and bring the experience close to your mental eyes, right into the very centre of you mind.

Push off the bad experiences or events far away from your mind after making what you had seen darker and smaller, what you had heard low and hardly audible and after ignoring what you had felt. The moment you make the whole experience small, say the size of a pin head, and push them away they become powerless and look like they happened long back and incapable of affecting you anymore.  

Those who are depressed or sad normally have their minds filled with the intense, big, bright and sad experiences and failures. Those who are confident and happy do the opposite; they fill their minds with pleasant, confident, loving, happy events and experiences of their lives and push away the unhappy ones.   Let us Keep the good experiences close to our mind bright, loud, and intense and push away the bad ones. A salesman who has nine failures and one win can feel happy and confident by filling his mind with the details of that winning experience and pushing far away all the failures after making them small and blurred.   Along with that if you are in your peak state body physiology (standing/sitting walking erect, holding your head up, drawing your shoulders and breathing full deep and slow) you cannot feel depressed or sad.      

   

More the failures greater the chance to succeed

Look at the politicians who fail in a general election. They had devoted a lot of time planning and working for months or years spending their resources. Failure does not discourage them a bit; they take it in their stride and they start scheming for the next event. They analyze their mistakes and shortfalls,  take corrective steps and move on;  they never give in. They resurrect and win handsomely in a short while. Mrs. Gandhi the Indian PM was defeated in the 1977 general elections and her party was routed. She was arrested by the ruling coalition and put in jail. But she plotted her come back, worked day and night and she won the next general election. In about three years she was the PM again.

 They never succumb to despair or frustration even for a minute. This is a great lesson we have to learn from them.  They find opportunities in everything, including defeats. It is known to us all how Edison won after 10,000 failures. Lincoln conquered defeat after defeat which haunted his life throughout and eventually became the president of the United States.

Demosthenes had stammering; he overcame the affliction with years of persistent efforts (he practiced speaking with a pebble under his tongue). He is acclaimed to be the greatest orator ever lived. Narasimha Rao wanted to be the Indian Prime minister. The Nehru clan was so overbearing and the position of PM was appropriated naturally by them. He had to wait and  wait serving as a minister in the Indira and Rajiv cabinets. He eventually became the PM after the assassination of Rajiv Gandhi and that too without a majority for his own party.   

It is known to all how Helen sans eyes, ears and speech became one of the greatest ladies ever lived.  The spider in the story had a number of falls but succeed he did. More the failures you are given to endure, greater is the chance you get what you want.