Let even your eyes smile

Long back, Bing Crosby made the song, ‘you don’t need to know the language to say that you’re in love.’ Language is not needed too to convey the message that you like or dislike, hate or envy someone. Your body language and voice patterns will signal whether you enjoy your job or is bored with it. You can easily read the minds of your family members, colleagues or even strangers through observation. Remember we communicated non-verbally for millions of years.

Your enthusiasm or aversion is mirrored in every action of yours. . When you meet someone, show warmth, smile genuinely (let even your eyes smile), and energize your handshake saying ‘I am glad to know you’ or ‘I am happy to see you again.’ Nobody likes an artificial, dull smile and a lifeless handshake. Check whether your ‘good morning’ ‘thank you’ ‘congratulations’ are all  really good and enthusiastic. People love the guy who has life in whatever he says and does.  

Have good news for those whom you meet and to yourself. You can start your day saying, ‘I feel great today’  No one ever  wins by broadcasting bad news. If you harp on your problems you will be less in demand and if you think more about them than good things  you will feel bad. Say good things that happened today to your family and let unpleasant ones stay buried. Complaining about things- let it be whether or anything else- makes your life miserable.

Say often , ‘I feel great’ instead of ‘I feel awful’ and experience the difference. When you say and think ‘I feel great’ often enough you come to feel great and others can experience your ‘greatness.’ Nobody likes to get along with 'complainers' and ‘dead’ people.  Broadcast good feelings to others and self and experience you becoming good in a very short while.   

Make yours a better world!

“You are not here merely to make a living. You are here in order live more happily, with greater vision, with a finer spirit of hope and achievement. You are here to enrich the world and you impoverish yourself if you forget the errand. “ Woodrow Wilson  There is no point in making money and hoarding it. You cannot take it with you when you say your final adieu. We have a very short life. At the most 120 years. But on an average 80 odd years and after that there is going to be a veil of eternal darkness whether you like it not. Hence live every minute, savor every moment. Let every second become a beautiful experience. There can be worries, there can be looming problems. But at this moment you have the power to be happy or unhappy.

If your partner has not cooked good food, take it as an opportunity to eat something good from a restaurant you cherish. If there is no shirt or skirt kept ready, try another. If you feel moody go to your favorite beach; let the sun and the fragrant wind soothe your nerves. Plan a trip for today, for tomorrow and the day after. Plan to take your kids for a movie or to an amusement park or anywhere they would be happy. Buy new clothes for your family members, buy the best automobile, go to foreign lands and let everyone enjoy living.  Are you worried about money? If you have it why should you hoard it? Spend and enjoy this day which will never return. And when you spend you feel like making more of it.  Use your time and mind to make adequate money for what you want in life.

You might be sitting irritated over something when your child comes with a demand or childish prank. You will tend to get angry and spoil his/her day.  Once angry word that has passed your mouth can never be retrieved it would have caused an irreparable harm. The child goes unhappy grumbling and you become unhappy too. Why do want to make a moment unpleasant? Hold your reaction for a minute and suppressing the natural bend of mind to be angry, say a nice word, and offer a smile. If you are doing something, stop doing it and lend your ears and eyes, lend your body, lend your mind. The attentions you give will make all the difference in the world to your child.

When an aged parent comes to your side, do not feel irritated. Show warmth and concern. After all they gave all their time to you when you were young. They are the same parents now, the only difference is that they are no longer earning and they are not physically fit as they used to be. Your annoyance and eagerness to get rid of them wild make them unhappy and if such events get repeated they will stop coming to you for anything.  They will become more morose and lonely and they will start cursing their life and think of putting an end to it. In turn, knowingly or unknowingly you will feel sad and guilty. Everyone knows a feeling of hurt or guilt is very damaging to one’s body and mind. If, on the other hand, you made them happy with your time and attention you will feel fulfillment at that moment.

Laugh your way to health

We know our health very much depends on our mental condition. When we are in the company of good people and cheerful surroundings, our body functions much better. Unpleasant scenery and the presence of those whom we dislike can make us sick and tired. A steady, good state of mind can usher in health and a negative one sickness.  Mental states influence our nervous system and vital organs.  One can acquire radiant health with a bit of exercise and food control coupled with a positive state of mind. It is now proven mental disturbances like anxiety and tension can induce diabetes, asthma, bronchitis and even blood pressure. Acute depressions and intense grieving can induce cancers!  One’s feelings, emotions, and mental states reflected in one’s brain waves, influence our health. Simply put, mind has a lot to do with one’s physical state.  By controlling one’s mind one can be healthy. Depressing and negative thoughts force our glands secrete poison into the blood. It affects or retards the normal body functions like circulation, digestion and assimilation.  A pleasant state of mind induces positive secretions which facilitate all these functions.

Constant laughing, smiles and a joyous state can cure diseases and help our body build up immunity against them. If one is depressed or sad immunity gets reduced and the count of the white blood corpuscles comes down. In a recent medical research, cancer patients were accommodated in a hall where they were allowed to read only funny magazines, articles, anecdotes and books, and see humorous films or videos. The experiment was continued for six months. When they were tested afterwards, it was observed that almost 20 percent of the patients were cured totally! There was a marked improvement in the others!  If a continuous joyous state can cure even incurable diseases like cancer, ordinary illnesses can easily be overcome even with occasional smiles and a positive state of mind.   It is also proven medically that anger, frustration and sorrow can bring in diseases including cancer. Widows, for instance, are much more prone to breast cancer than others.  A pleasant state of mind is conducive for health and well-being. The facial features can change one’s inner state of mind.  If your facial muscles can be turned into a smiling state, the intensity of sorrow will lessen and it will help maintain a pleasant state and build up disease fighting mechanism. So, keep a smile always dangling in your lips.